My Hair Journey Begins…

Hello, my friends! How was your weekend?

Mine was nice.  I got to spend some time with my sister-in-law. She just graduated from law school and moved to Detroit with her fiancee.  She was in town on wedding business! They are getting married in August!!!! Other than that, Fab and I just chilled all weekend… Oh! I almost forgot, we went to see X-men: First Class. It was great. I mean, I enjoyed it buuuuut I’m not the toughest critic.  Fab however, is a HUGE comic book fan and in his expert opinion, they did a great job with the movie.  He felt that they stayed true to the spirit of the X-men story (although he said the real hard core X-men “fanboys” might not like some of the liberties they took with the storyline).  Since I have no frame of reference, I can’t speak to that but I will say that it was entertaining. Lol!

Anyway, last week I discovered the My Hair Fetish’s channel on YouTube and watched at least 10 videos (at 15 min each) in a row.   I was so inspired! It turns out that she (not sure of her name) has actually been a long time reader of TFND!! How do I know this? Well, I stalked her on Twitter to pick her brain about her gorgeous hair and she told me she’d been reading for about a year now.  What a small cyber-world? I wish I had discovered her vlog a year ago because I really love it! You guys know that I am always at my wit’s end with my hair. I never know what to do with it. I am always trying new things, but I don’t have a “regimen.”  Earlier this year, I told you guys I was going to be participating in MopTop Maven’s Hair Challenge.  I have been doing pretty good with not straightening and heat styling my hair too often, but I have failed miserably at my goal to minimize tight ponytails and hair gel.  Since I don’t know what to do with my hair, hair gel and ponytails are my go-t0 and my hair is suffering.  Well, after marathoning videos on My Hair Fetish, I felt inspired to revisit my goals for 2011 and reall get serious about building a healthy hair regimen.  I realize that people usually refer to a “hair journey” as the process of growing out chemically treated hair or “going natural.”  Well, my hair is not relaxed so my hair journey will be about restoring my hair to health.

My Goals

  • Say bye to tight ponytails & hair gel as much as possible
  • Establish a healthy hair regimen
  • Bra strap length hair
  • Restore my natural curl pattern
  • Get a signature “look”

Let me clarify the last goal.  I know this is going to sound silly, but I really feel like at my age, I should have signature “look” for my hair… and that “look” should not be a ponytail.  I should have some kind of hair style, don’t you think? I feel like I am stuck in high school with my hair. Lol. Actually, no let’s make that Jr. High because in high school I actually did have a signature look…that look being a bone straight wrap with a swoop over my eye a la Aliyah. Lol! No lie!  Then I abandoned the bone strap wrap for voluminous layers in my senior year, which I loved! In retrospect, I guess I didn’t get stuck in my ponytail rut until my last year in college when I started wearing my hair “natural” (as in curly/ not pressed. I never had a relaxer).  You know what, now that I am thinking about it, I remember exactly when it happened. I dyed my hair auburn in my second year of college and it was super cute, but left my hair severely damaged.  Even after the dye grew out, my hair was a mess.  I finally cut it to about my collar bone and decided to try and press it less.  If I’m going out or something I’ll diffuse my hair and wear it down, but for the most part it’s always up in a ponytail.  Not only am I sick of this non-style, but it’s also doing quite a bit of damage to my hair as well sooooo I think it’s time to say bye-bye to my BFF – the ponytail.

The Plan

  • Research, research, research! (I’ve already joined Hairlista and started subscribing to hair blogs and vlogs.)
  • Explore the wonderful world of “natural” hair products that are free of sulfates, parabens, and all the other “bad stuff”
  • Straighten no more than one time every six weeks (if that).
  • Wash & Deep Condition Weekly
  • Incorporate a “pre-poo” into my weekly washes
  • Monthly clarifying wash
  • Protein Treatments every six weeks
  • Trim every six weeks (I guess this is when I will straighten my hair)
  • Roller sets, roller sets, roller sets

…so let’s get this party on the road with a little video (sorry, I know it’s kinda long. lol).

What’s your hair care regimen? What are your favorite products?

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29 Responses to “My Hair Journey Begins…”

  1. Oh, I love it!!! A head full of curls, very pretty! :) I have to try the flexi rods, but I SLEEP in my rollers and the sponge ones might be softer to sleep in, what do you think?
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  2. Oh, your curls turned out so pretty! Sometimes I wish my hair was longer so I could do things like this.

    My normal hair regimen, is wash/condition with paul mitchell (I LOVE the conditioner). I wrap my hair, sit under the dryer and normally flat iron my hair.

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  3. lynn says:

    YOu are going to laugh, why did I have my own YouTube marathon this whole week! I am fascinated by DIY hair products of late. I discovered how to make hair gel. I, like you, am a pony tail queen, and I love, no I LOVE that brown hair gel. Well, I found a great recipe and just made some organic hair gel last night. Go to this Youtube channel, arcamp83!!!! You will love her, I promise. Her hair texture may be closer to your texture so the products may work for you too. I took a trip to Whole Foods and with $10 worth of ingredients I had hair gel and a African butter whip for my hair. Oh, wait the African Butter came from my local African store ($6). You are sure to find her entertaining and informative. I will post my whipped shea butter and hair gel results this week, promise. Happy Hair!!!!!
    besos,lynn
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  4. lynn says:

    I almost forgot, great curls!
    besos,lynn
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  5. Moni says:

    Your hair looks great! You should also check out curlynikki.com. Nikki also "transitioned" from straightened natural hair to curly hair and her hair is fantastic. My hair routine varies somewhat, but the basics are deep condition on dry hair, wash (or cowash) in braids or twists (to minimize tangles), re-braid with leave-in, moisturizer, seal with an oil or butter, air dry, then remove braids for a braidout. My hg leave-in is Giovanni direct, and other favs are Qhemet Burduck Root Butter Cream and Vatika Oil. I'm still experimenting with gels and serums to fight the humidity.

  6. Corie says:

    Eboni, I love the curls! Very pretty look. I remember when I use to wear a ponytail almost everyday, then I cut my hair into the bob & haven’t changed it since.

    My hair, skin…everything is oily. My hair will grow like no other because of it. I just keep it cut short. I really don’t do much to mine. I have a natural curl but keep my hair straight (flat iron/hair dryer); it suits me better. The products I use are all Nexxus, and when I wrap my hair (I do every night & every time I wash it), I use the Wrap’nTap. I actually deep condition it 2x a month & trim it every 8 weeks. I do all of this myself because I’m afraid to go back to a salon….long story.
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  7. I always love finding out someone has been reading my blog and they love it! Totally know how you feel!

    Now the hair stuff. Clearly, since I'm white, I don't have the same hair issues women of color have, but Mama (my hairdresser) and I did see Good Hair with Chris Rock, and it really opened our eyes to the challenges you face. But I DO get the desire for a signature look. I've worn my hair basically long, one-length, and dark for many years. Every once in a while I wonder if people think I'm stuck in a time warp. Then I think, no, my long hair is my signature, you know? It's just me. So I just can't cut it!

    I'm going to be following along on your journey to see how it goes. I am wondering, so many white women LOVE Moroccan Oil. I haven't tried it because my hair is fine and frankly, I think it will weigh it down. Is that something you have tried? Or might try? It's supposed to be great for damaged hair, especially. And let's face it, any straightening or coloring damages the hair.

    Anyway, will be watching you, doll!
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  8. PS: You are so cute in that video! I love the results. And the tunes!
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  9. TianaM says:

    Hi Ebony! I'm natural as well and have pretty long and thick hair. I love your blog and happy you are starting a healthy hair journey! I always wondered why you didn't venture out with your hair. But I can understand you! I didn't do a big chop because I don't think I look good with short hair. So I wore a sew in for 2 years and grew out my relaxed hair. I started wearing my natural hair last august and now my hair is two bra strap length. Youtube has really helped me on my natural hair journey. I'll list some of the people I follow and hopefully they help you too!!
    http://www.youtube.com/user/brittanync http://www.youtube.com/user/CurlyCrazyfulLeah http://www.youtube.com/user/denimpixie http://www.youtube.com/user/Fleurzty http://www.youtube.com/user/LexiWithTheCurls http://www.youtube.com/user/MlleCafeAuLait http://www.youtube.com/user/taren916

    And try naturallycurly.com. Sorry for the long post! =O Hope it helps at least. You'll find hairstyle tutorial and product reviews!

  10. TianaM says:

    Hi Ebony! I'm natural as well and have pretty long and thick hair. I love your blog and happy you are starting a healthy hair journey! I always wondered why you didn't venture out with your hair. But I can understand you! I didn't do a big chop because I don't think I look good with short hair. So I wore a sew in for 2 years and grew out my relaxed hair. I started wearing my natural hair last august and now my hair is two bra strap length. Youtube has really helped me on my natural hair journey. I'll list some of the people I follow and hopefully they help you too!!

  11. Lilly says:

    LOVE this look on you! Your hair look sooo pretty!

  12. Iky says:

    I started a hair regimen too n my hair has been growing out nicely. I do buns a lot but make sure they are not tight, I also do not use any gel, actually don’t like that stuff… I have texturised hair which is now collar bone length ( I did a BC last dec 2009). All the best in your journey, have fun with it.
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  13. I love the curls! Good luck with your hair journey. I love the video…TOO CUTE!
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  14. Shen says:

    Your curls turned out stunning!

    I’m on my own hair journey ( Im going from relaxed to natural!) I’ve been on if for a year and a half and I’m also a member of hairlista (look for my friend request! :) ) I was so excited when i first started and I still am! It’s so rewarding when you start to see progress. Your off to a promising start, happy hair journey!

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  15. mrsjarette says:

    Check out http://hairdelacreme.blogspot.com/ she is very good at teachng you about a good hair regime.
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  16. I will be happily following along! My blog is actually a hair blog so I am super interested. I love a line that is all organic, paraben, dye, etc free called Bee Mine which is available at http://www.beemineproducts.com. There are a bunch of reviews about them online. Good luck!
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  17. Shasie says:

    Girl I so agree! I am always at a loss on my hair too and with thishumidity I just don't know what to do with it anymore…a complete loss lolol

    Shasie
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  18. jasmine says:

    I've never tried this before! I love how your hair turned out though. I'm a natural hair newbie (transitioning) and I love curlynikki.com & collegecurlies.blogspot.com. Hope these help!

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  20. Toria says:

    Congrats on joining the 'healthy hair journey community'. I wish you much success! :)
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  21. MsAmina says:

    Eboni one thing you may want to try if you want to keep more of the length and still have the defined curly look you're going for is do the the set lengthwise on the flexi rods. Wrap your hair about 2 times around about an inch from the bottom of a rod, then wrap it around the length of the rod and fold the top over your hair to hold it. I would do a demo but I cut all my hair off! LOL. But I still have my mannequin heads from when I was in cosmetology school so if you need a demo hit me up. I will do it on there. I enjoyed your blog as always and I love that your sharing your hair journey with us.
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  22. Yvette Puckett says:

    Eboni, I love the curls! I started a hair regimen too n my hair has been growing out nicely. You are sure to find her entertaining and informative.

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  24. Girl I so agree! I am always at a loss on my hair too and with thishumidity I just don't know what to do with it anymore…a complete loss lolol
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