A couple Friday’s ago I tried the backwards cardi trend, and I mentioned that I am very insecure about my back, and promised to write a separate post about it. Well, this post is going to be about that, and a couple other insecurities. I guess I’ll start by saying that I know most of my insecurities could be minimized with a strict workout regimen. And, for me it’s not about losing weight…it’s about muscle tone (and currently, the lack there of.) Still, my “soft spots” simply won’t be eliminated by weight loss alone, though losing a few pounds would certainly help….they won’t eliminate my “problem areas” completely.
So, what are those problem areas you ask?? Well, they are all highlighted in this dress. Lol!
- My back.
- My arms.
- My bust.
- Basically, everything from the waist up. Lol!
Well, guys…what can I say…it’s just broad and umm flabby? Lol! People generally dismiss me when I say I am broad, but it is true. Finding button front shirts and tailored jackets is a pain with a capital P. I wish I could blame it all on my bust, but the truth is often times, with jackets in particular, the problem is my broad back. It actually runs in my family on my mom’s side…so there you have it! The good news is if I work out hard, and whittle my waist down, my broad back and shoulders can create the illusion of an hourglass figure…except for the fact that my hips and bootie are the first things to go when I lose weight…so forget that idea. Lol!
The other issue with my back is ummm…well, back fat. There it is! Bra straps are my worst enemy..and I really can’t stand to see a single ripple or roll when I wear tighter clothing…body shapers/smoothers are great for minimizing pesky back fat (this one by Vedette is AH-MAZ-ING…and when all else fails, I can throw on a blazer.
Oh, and last but not least, I have been blessed with not one, but two lovely skin ailments — Tinea Versicolor and Eczema, both of which seem to have a particular fondness for my back (though they thankfully ignore the rest of my body most of the time.) Now, I will admit that my struggles with these conditions are relatively mild compared to other people. Some people battle breakouts that are really hard to contain all over their bodies. my breakouts are very mild, but it’s a pain to manage nonetheless…and it’s just not very pretty!
Oh…and one more thing…I have a slight hump in my spine at my neck. Yep, you read that right…the hunchback of Atlanta, GA. Okay, so I am exaggerating but it is quite noticeable from certain angles.
So, all in all, I’ve got a broad, moderately flabby, discolored back…with a slight hump at the neck. Lovely, right?! Lol
Umm, they are just big! Again, I can’t tell you how often I’ve had to size up in a shirt or jacket because it didn’t fit my arms! So Annoying. This is definitely one of my problem areas that could be improved by a more consistent workout regimen, but it can’t be alleviated completely. In fact, if I work on my biceps too much, it just makes the problem worse.
Big boobs are just overrated. FYI, I wear a size 34 DD. Quite frankly, it is just HELL to find cute bras in this size that don’t cost $75+. And once again, finding a well fitting tailored shirt is something like finding a needle in a haystack. Safety pins are by best friend! Cute little strappy tops are also no fun when you’ve gotta holster the girls up all the time. Lol! I’ll be honest, when I was younger, I just used to go without a bra…things were much simpler! But Fab doesn’t like that technique so much, and I know that as I get older it is important that I give the girls a little more support in their fight against gravity. *sigh*
….and news flash, they don’t make fashion bustiers for boobs my size! Nope… not at all…it’s a real bustier or nothing for these girls! Even squeezing them into the bustier bodice of this dress was a challenge!
Oh, and let’s not forget about the 3rd and 4th boob…you know the ones, that magically appear under your arms with certain tops? Love those, right! See exhibit A below. (Usually, I’d delete a photo like this, pronto!)
Some time last year, some of my blogger buddies remarked on Twitter about what a great body I had, and how they could pull off some of my outfits if they had my body, too. I was obviously very flattered, but I also chuckled as I shared the story with Fab, because I have all these insecurities and flaws that I do my best to camouflage with clothes every day! If anything, I’ve just masted the art of dressing for my body…and highlighting my best features. As women, we are so critical of ourselves, and when it comes to fashion, we are so quick to say “I can’t wear this or that because…” Well, you guys… I love fashion to much to embrace those kinds of limiting beliefs! if I really love something, I do my best to find a way to make it work for me and my body. Are you going to see me rocking a sleeveless…crew-neck…backless…cropped top with low-rise pants? No, not a chance! But you might see me rocking a 3/4 sleeve…v-neck…cropped top…with back cutouts or a moderately low-cut back…and high rise trousers or flared jeans.
So, there you have it, I’ve laid all my flaws out on the table for you guys. And honestly, I can do this because, I’ve come to terms with all these imperfections over the years. They are what they are…and I can’t change them. I can work out and try to maintain “the best me” but I can’t change the foundation God gave me.
p.s. Me telling you guys all this totally makes us card carrying BFFs, by the way. Lol!
Me with my girl Breck of Fashion Without Guilt.
Thanks for stopping by! XOXO.
**I’m linking up to Work It Wednesday on A Little Bit of Lacquer.**