I’m Alive, Y’all!

I know y’all have probably been wondering, what in the world happen to Eboni?  I kinda just fell completely off the map, but I can’t really apologize because I reaaaaally needed the break.  The mental break actually started a while ago before the physical break when I wrote this post about gaining 12 pounds, only at the time I didn’t realize it.  It didn’t really hit me until Fab and I headed to Denver for my job’s semi-annual conference.  Usually, when I travel for my job, I enter into a really disciplined work mindset.  I prepare myself mentally for long days on my feet working the conference, and late nights working on blog stuff.  Even when I’ve scheduled guest posts in the past, I still spent my evenings in my hotel laying out the guest posts…or sourcing content and preparing for upcoming blog posts upon my return.  But, this time Fab came with me and for part of the trip, we were visiting with some of his friends from law school, which meant I had to close my laptop, leave my iPad in my bag, and minimize my social media time….in other words, enjoy the good company of our friends and stay off the damn internet! Lol.  Normally, that would totally stress me out because I’d try to enjoy myself, but it would be nearly impossible to escape the nagging reminders about all the things I had to do when I got home…but you know that mental break I mentioned earlier…well, little did I know it had settled in an made itself comfortable.  You guys…I felt soooooooo FREE.  I mean, seriously, I didn’t even think about the blog.  I wasn’t totally unplugged, but if you follow me on Instagram, you know I posted a ton of pics of me and Fab having a great time in the Mile High City….but barely any of those posts were about fashion or what I was wearing…they were just about enjoying life.  Then I came back to Atlanta, and I didn’t want to let go of that feeling of freedom.  Every morning, I told myself that I was going to jump back in on the blog….and every night, I cuddled up on the couch while my laptop lay shut and powered down on the desk in my office.  Then, I told myself I’d get started on the weekends…but the weekends came and went while I hung out with my friends, playing board games and jumping from one brunch spot to the next, and my my camera just continued to collect dust on my bookshelf.


I finally surrendered.  I let myself take a break.  And, I’ll be totally honest, I considered shutting the blog down altogether quite a bit during this time.  Going back to my post about gaining 12 pounds, I really think that was a wake up call for me.  I work full time, and I would be lying if I told you guys that I haven’t considered the possibility of this blog setting me free from the my life-sucking nine to five.  I mean, I’ve seen it happen….I personally know bloggers that have made the leap, so I know it’s possible.  And, maybe that’s why I pushed myself so hard.  The fact of the matter is, replacing my full-time with blog income would be impossible to achieve while still working, because I just can’t make the time commitment needed to pump out enough content to call myself a “full-time blogger”….but, if I could just get close enough…maybe I could make it happen??  And, this my friend is where the problem lies.  This line of thinking is what caused this blog to become a source of stress and pressure instead of a source of joy.  Taking a break really allowed me to get back to why I started the blog in the first place.  When I started this blog, I didn’t even know what a sponsored post was…and I definitely had no clue that people were actually making careers out of blogging, so that was never my goal.  I blogged about fashion because I loved it.  I LOVED shopping. I LOVED reading fashion magazines. I LOVED seeing all the latest trends on the runway.  And I especially LOVED seeing those runway trends translated into unique, personal style.  And of course, I LOVED sharing my love for all these things with other fashion lovers.  Having an “OMG, yes! That is soooooo cute” moment with people all over the world who totally get it was exhilarating.  I mean, with you guys, I never have to worry about a puzzled “ummm, why is she wearing sweatpants and heels”  stare.  Nope, you…my fashion friends…are like “Duh.  Sweats were made to wear with heels” Lol.


But anyway, I digress…the point is, when I looked up and realized I had gained 12 pounds, it hit me…what I was doing was just not sustainable…at least, not without me sacrificing my own personal health and sanity.  The bottom line is, my day job isn’t going anywhere any time soon.  The blog has to come second, which means I can’t try to do what a full-time blogger does while still working a nine to five (which in my case is really more like a nine to nine.)  I can’t continue to sacrifice sleep, food, gym time, and quality time with my family and friends.  I can’t continue to let blogging consume me.  Not only is it not sustainable, but it’s turning something I love into something that just stresses me the hell out….and when that happens, what’s the point?


So, all of that was to say that I’m back, with no plans of shutting down anytime soon.  I guess I just needed some to think and get back to what made me fall in love with blogging in the first place.  Oh, and so far… I’ve lost 11 pounds. Woohoo!! And beyond feeling healthier, going to the gym daily has been so good for me mentally.  I seriously arrive at the gym sometimes with a headache, and 5 minutes into my workout, it’s gone.  And, y’all know how I feel about my legs!!! They are my favorite feature, and they are looking even more toned than ever, if I do say myself. YES!!!!


Oh, and this outfit?  These photos were taken just before I left for Denver for a feature on the JustFab blog.  I, along with three other bloggers, showed off three ways to wear JustFab’s Neri platform sandals.  I’m also wearing a cuuuuute pineapple print button up that my friends at Talbots sent over, and I’ve been wearing NON-STOP ever since.  In fact, you can download the Glam Style app to see how I styled it for a casual work look in their September Issue which should be available on September 1.  You know, now that  think about it, this shirt was featured in BOTH of the last two outfits I shot before my unplanned break started.  I guess that tells you guys how excited I was about the pineapple craze this summer.  Lol!

What I’m Wearing:  Talbots Pineapple Print Shirt (on sale for $17) // DIY Shorts // Thrifted Belt // JustFab “Neri” Sandals (also available in black) // JustFab “Industry” Bag

Have you ever just needed a break?

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27 Responses to “I’m Alive, Y’all!”

  1. courtnee says:

    Hey girl!! I was just thinking about you:)

    I took a long break and in fact started from scratch. Yes, it was much needed and gave me some of the urge to blog back and made me rethink what I wanted to blog about(so, yeah, brand new blog!)

    Anyway, glad you’re back! You look great:)

  2. Welcome back Eboni!

    I completely know the feeling and totally understand. It's hard work maintaining a blog, a full-time job, and social life. I'd love to blog and write full-time but the personal sacrifice is hard.

    It's great to see you posting again.

  3. Welcome back! You look AMAZING!

  4. Shea says:

    I know exactly what you mean, I was looking for you a few weeks ago on Feedly to see if I had missed any of your posts and simply thought to myself "she's on a break". I am on an unplanned break also which one of my readers tried to check me on last week by leaving a not so nice comment. It touched a nerve because blogging is so much more than "uploading pictures" as she said. Sometimes it's nice to be just regular instead in constant blogger mode. Welcome back!
    My recent post Lady Like Style

  5. Glad to have you back ! But I completely understand.
    As a blog gets more and more popular, it also gets harder and harder to maintain it.
    So glad you're back, again.
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  6. amber says:

    yes! I was wondering what happened to you! but I get it. Blogging is hard. Blogging and working full time is harder. Trying to be creative, be on top of things AND juggle all of the other aspects of life can be super stressful! kudos to you for recognizing you needed a break and taking the time out to do that and enjoy it!!
    Happy to have your style posts back!!
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  7. I think I take too many…. LOL. Glad you're back, up and at em'!

  8. This post was so honest and I am VERY glad that you came back and even more so that you came back for fun. I will always remember you as my first supporter! I'm glad you had fun in "my city" LOL It is a great place to escape to and I LOVE unplugging once and a while. Good for you! You look fabulous as always!

  9. Carsedra McKoy says:

    Welcome back, glad to see you're back and with a renewed sense of blogging and doing it for the love of it and connecting with people of like minds and not to the point where it controls your life!!!! There has to be a balance or else somethings start to suffer. I don't have a blog anywhere close to the popularity of yours but I have taken my share of blog breaks because it was too much. This last break I took really allowed me to fall in love with blogging again and still know that it's not my entire life, just a tool I use to share some of my life with my followers!!

    Super cute look too!!

    Carsedra McKoy: http://www.embracingtherealme.com http://sweets4yourtooth.blogspot.com/

  10. Honey Pearl says:

    I soooooooooooooooo freakin' love this post, and you for it!!! This is beyond relatable for all of us that lead "juggling" lives. Sometimes it can look so easy, when reality is that it can be so difficult. I often beat myself up for jumping on and off of my routine for the exact freedom you speak of. It took a while for me to come to terms with not being a "Superwoman". Everyone deserves a break and in these breaks we find that we re-fuel and re-charge with greater ambition. Anyone that dares to create a prioritized balance of family, career and a potentially profitable passion should be commended. ….and especially for doing so while cute!! ;-) Welcome back lady!!

  11. Well, I had written a longish comment that got wiped when I logged into comment with my Twitter account. So here;s take two: You look fantastic, and good for you for finding the balance you need.

    You know blogging has changed a lot since when we started, and like you, I'm kind of like, what's the point? I can almost just stick to Instagram and be just fine. I recently wrote that I'm actually done with outfit posts on the blog. Totally over that. When it's time to move on, it's good to allow yourself to. And I'm sticking to my mantra of the past few years: I'll only post when I feel like it. Period.

    Anyway, good to see you feeling good about YOU!

  12. Te'Rea says:

    This is a great post! My blog will be a year old in October and I made it my business to remember that this is FUN. This is my escape from work, this is what I enjoy. So therefore, I don't stress myself out about blogging because I get enough stress from the 8-5. I am a full-time employee, mother and wife so needless to say, I have enough….lol. Anywho, welcome back and glad that you are all rested up!
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  13. fshnonmymind says:

    Aww, I'm so glad you are doing well (and looking great). I wondered what happened to you.
    Believe me, I completely understand what you are going through. I remember blogging being such a fun thing for me and loved connecting to people who understood my slight obsession with fashion but after awhile it became more of a chore to post new and/or interesting things and I didn't have that same love that I once did. Sometimes I think about blogging again but I actually enjoy the freedom of not feeling like I have to do it and there are tons of other blogs out there who are fabulous and now I actually find time to read them all. :)
    Sometimes you just need to hit the reset button so I'm glad you were able to get the break you desperately needed and have the energy and drive to keep going.

  14. […] you hate when that happens? Luckily, I’m in good company – two of my fave bloggers (Fashionista Next Door & The Tiny Closet) have also taken a slight break. […]

  15. Chekara says:

    I love this post. The honesty, the outfit, everything!
    I completely agree with you. Especially as someone who is kind of new-ish to the bloggersphere. Being consistent is necessary in order to gain (and keep) loyal readers when you're just starting out. But sometimes life and reality gets in the way of your plans. In all you, just have to do the best that you can and manage it all!
    Thanks so much for sharing.
    XO, Chekara | shadesofchekara.com
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  16. Shen Dove says:

    Life balance isn't always easy. I'm happy to hear you're feeling better and were able to recharge. Sure, full-time, full throttle blogging can be rewarding, but whether you post once a week, or daily, your blog is great.

  17. I really appreciated this post Eboni, several points resonated with me personally. Thank you for being frank and sharing your experience!
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  18. I'm in total agreement! I blog for fun and that often has to come second. Good for you for taking the time you needed!!


  19. Wendy Derilus says:

    Glad you're back!

  20. I love this post, Eboni. Welcome back. Take your time and enjoy you!
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  21. tanya says:

    This is super cute! I love your blouse and your hair.


  22. Girl, I totally figured this! No worries!! We know you have to take care of yourself. & YESS girl, your legss look so good! Congrats on getting your balanced life back together, I totally feel you. :)) <3

  23. Rocquelle says:

    While I’m certainly glad to know you’re back, I honestly didn’t know you were gone. As, I had to unplug a bit myself for about 7 weeks. I was surely on the verge of shutting down Consider Me Lovely, even wrote what I thought might be my final post, lol. Nonetheless, I decided to get back in touch with why I started blogging in the first place, and I’m glad you did too. It’s definitely necessary to take care of yourself and make time for the loved one around you. Looking forward to whatever post your schedule allows you to share! It’s definitely.
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  24. I love this post! I wonder if there is a blogger who hasn't had these same thoughts. I surely have. I would love for blogging to rescue me from the daily grind, but I also sometimes need a break from blogging. I've wondered, "What if I stop blogging?" Like you, I realize that I love blogging, but needed to find balance in my life so that no one thing becomes overwhelming and stressful. One thing that I do know is that when I take a break (or semi-break) from blogging, I tend to come back refreshed and excited with new ideas and my blog benefits greatly from the break. Anyway, welcome back!
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  25. Francy says:

    this was a great post, you really verbalized what I feel like so many bloggers go through. I've been on a little break myself, mainly because blogging became a stressful full time job on top of already having a full time job. Thanks so much for your transparency!!
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  26. We're all going through "the change" in reference to blogging. Most of my favorite bloggers started the change like a year ago. I'm probably shutting my blog down next year. I'm glad you're focusing on life and remembering what matters. We'll all deal with any decision you make :)

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